Write a Letter - Heal Your Soul!
The Project
What is this project about?
The Healing Letters Project is about writing “letters of reconciliation” to your family, friends or loved ones. The purpose of the letters is to make amends with the people in your life who you’ve hurt, or those who have hurt you. Many of us have unresolved issues from our past that continue to manifest itself in detrimental ways, in particular, broken relationships. We desire to repair relationships and heal, but we just don't know where or how to start. A letter of reconciliation can help you begin that journey.
To whom should you write a letter of reconciliation?
The main reason for writing a letter of reconciliation is to seek forgiveness and healing. The letters are about saying, “I love you and I forgive you,” or “I’m sorry, will you forgive me?”

The decision to write a letter of reconciliation is a personal choice. There are other means and processes for forgiveness. This is just one option for people who have been longing to take a step and don’t know where to start.

The option, however, is not for everyone. Specifically, if you are a victim of serious abuse, it is recommended that you don’t use this option to reach out. It is unwise to reach out to an abuser. Reach out to God instead and also seek the appropriate professional help.

If you decide this is a good option for you, a letter of reconciliation may be written to anyone with whom you feel you need to make amends (family, friends, loved ones, neighbors, church members, co-workers, or any other person in your life). No problem or issue is too great or too small for God to rectify.
Understanding what forgiveness is really about.
  • Forgiveness is a choice we make. It’s not so much a feeling as it is a choice. We have to choose to forgive because it is for our benefit. Choice first, feelings later. That may sound harsh, but once you make the choice, God can change your feelings.

  • Forgiveness is not about changing someone else’s heart or mind so it will make you feel better. It’s about allowing God to change your heart and mind.

  • Forgiveness is a process, not an act, and it works both ways. It takes time for both parties to mend relationships.

  • Forgiveness and reconciliation are not about justice or who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s about holding yourself accountable and taking responsibility for your part in making amends.

  • Don’t feel like you’re letting someone off the hook by saying “I forgive you.” This is not about what you give away; it's about what you will gain.

  • If you think your problem or situation is beyond repair, you underestimate the power of love in mending relationships. The Bible says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8) and “Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs” (Proverbs 10:12). Allow God to show you how He can use love to mend your relationships.
See our Healing Letters page to
read actual letters written by others.